You can know all the right things… and still feel like the old patterns win:
- you minimize your needs
- you over-function
- you people-please
- you numb out or stay busy
- you abandon yourself to keep connection
- you silently wonder if something is wrong with you
And the worst part?
 You’ve tried so much.Â
So it starts to feel like maybe… you’re the problem.
You’re NOT.
By the end of this gathering, you’ll discover:
✅ The missing piece that makes identity change finally “stick”
(and why most single modalities don’t reach it)
✅ How the belief “I’m a burden” is formed,
the patterns it quietly creates in your life and how to free yourself from that burden
âś… A safe way to begin exploring identity
without falling apart or getting overwhelmed
This isn’t a workshop where I teach you everything and you walk away full… but alone.
 This is a belief-shifting gathering designed to help you finally understand:
“Oh… THAT’S why nothing has landed.”Â
And once you see it, your next step becomes obvious.
You Are Not a Burden
A 90-Minute Gathering for Adoptees Exploring Identity
This is for adoptees who have done a lot of “work on themselves”… and still feel stuck.
Who carry a quiet belief like “I’m too much” or “I’m a burden.”
Who keep showing up for everyone else while avoiding what they need.
If something still feels unfinished, join us live on Zoom
 March 3, 2026 at 6:30 MST Live on ZoomÂ
(5:30pm PST / 7:30pm CST / 8:30pm EST)
FAQ
Is this only for adoptees who feel adoption was negative?
Will there be a replay?
What if I’m not sure this applies to me?
Hi, I’m Julie Brumley.Â
I’m an adoptee, a counselor by training, and a coach who has spent years helping adoptees untangle identity—not as a concept, but as something that lives in the body, the story, and the beliefs we formed early.
For a long time, I tried everything too.
I learned so much… and still felt stuck.
The turning point for me was realizing:
I didn’t know how to have a relationship with my body.
And until I could learn that language, nothing I “knew” had anywhere to land.
That’s the heart behind this gathering.
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